relationships

This Lent, Consider a Social Media Fast

We all seem to be looking down these days. I wonder if that’s why many…

What Not to Say to Singles

Each year, the day after Valentines Day is officially known as Singles Awareness Day (yes,…

A Guide to Being Single on Valentine’s Day

“Wow, thanks,” I feigned as I tried to hide the expression of confusion on my…

The Key to Keeping Your Relationship Arguments Healthy

Maria Baer writes a blog for RELEVANT about how important it is to be intentional and forthright with the language you use.

How to Argue Well

Tor Constantino writes a blog for RELEVANT listing seven keys to fighting well in a relationship.

Your Marriage Will Be as Good as You Both Decide It Will Be

Most people know the oft-quoted stat: close to 50 percent of marriages end in divorce.…

Making the Most of Any Relationship Status

Whatever your relationship status, relationships can be consuming. Those who lack one fixate on getting…

4 Ways to Help a Hurting Friend

Editor’s note: This piece originally ran in 2019. A couple of years ago my life…

Why Is Christian Dating So Weird?

Christian dating can be awkward and downright weird sometimes. But let’s be fair. All dating is awkward—for…

The One Thing No One Tells You About Getting Married

So many dreams and hopes are enveloped in the belief that our entire lives have built up to our “I Do” moment; each and every heartbreak has led to this crescendo, making every ounce of romantic sorrow and struggle worth it.

Why Marriage Shouldn’t End Your Dating Life

Dating—in person, online or blind—is prized in our culture, and most of us think of…

Black History Is American History

David Masciotra on the rich history of black Americans and why the celebration of their contributions cannot be restrained to one month.

How the Church Makes People Terrified of Sex

There’s a shirt my youth pastor used to wear that said, “I practice safe sex.…

8 Things You Should Never Say to Your Single Friends

“It’s OK, your Prince Charming is out there!” I was told recently. Frozen smile on…

9 Questions to Ask When Your Relationship Starts Getting Serious

Is this “The ONE?” When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that…

Marriage Isn’t About Your Happiness

Did you ever think someone could show you love through a bologna sandwich? I didn’t…

7 Truths About Marriage You Won’t Hear in Church

Ever wish you had the answers to a test before you walked into the classroom?…

How to Go on an Actual Date

Ask 20 people what a “date” means or looks like and you will get 20…

Everything My Church Taught Me About Sex and Marriage Is Wrong

As a sixth grader, I went to a big Christian summer camp where the speaker…

6 Signs Your Relationship Shouldn’t Last

Often when I’m counseling a person who has just experienced a break-up, I ask them…

Your Spouse Isn’t Your ‘Significant Other’

Find out how you can get on the same page with your spouse. Take this…

Here’s How to Find True Love

“I do.” These are the words many single young adults dream of saying. I remember…

9 Stages of Every Millennial Breakup

Oh great, it’s time to break up. On the one hand, congrats! This is a…

Everything You Need to Know About Buying an Engagement Ring

So, it’s time. You think it’s time anyway. How do people know? Do you ever…

Dating Tips for Tipping on Dates

Taking someone out to eat at an elegant or even a semi-decent restaurant (not Chili’s)…

Dear Twenty-Year-Old, Single Me

Dear Twenty-Year-Old Single Me,   It’s November 14, 2012. Someone you know just got engaged,…

Why Is Dating So Hard?

She plopped down in the seat across from me with a heavy sigh. Two weeks,…

What’s ‘Love’ Got to Do With It?

Gus and Bertie set off on a semi-obligatory first date in a well-dented Toyota Prius.…

Is It OK for Married People to Text the Opposite Sex?

When I was young, I never liked when my mom and dad would close the…

What Does ‘Guarding Your Heart’ Even Mean?

If you’ve been around Christians and Church circles long, you’ve probably heard the phrase “guard…

Studies: Loneliness Can Make You Sick, Like Really Sick

Your parents were right: You need to make friends. Companionship and our ability to cooperate…

Everyone Loves Sex. So Why Wait?

When I met my wife, it was like we had known each other for years.…

Why Healthy Couples Don’t Ignore the Work

Every now and then, I run across a couple who has it figured out. Somehow,…

‘Missionary Dating’ Isn’t Just Unbiblical, It’s Selfish

You’d recognize that familiar “I met someone” starry-eyed glow anywhere. “He’s so good to me.…

Marriage Isn’t the Ultimate Way to Grow Spiritually

Jesus isn’t just a big deal to Christians. He’s the centerpiece, the whole point. He’s…

The One Surefire Way to Ruin Your Marriage

We all know the scene. After ending a once-in-a-lifetime relationship, Noah writes Allie 365 letters…

5 Ways to Help Your Friend Through a Tough Time

As I watched my friend approach, tears welled up in my eyes and I got…

‘Third Wheels’ Are Actually Great for Your Relationship

My doors were opened, and dinner was paid for. Anecdote-prompted laughter, a dive into the…

3 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship You Can’t Ignore

A person who is the victim of abuse is usually unaware of the toll it is taking on them and the stigma surrounding unhealthy relationships leaves victims in the dark.

10 Unexpected Benefits of Real Community

Here’s a story with which you may be familiar. Boy meets girl. They fall in…