Netflix’s Love is Blind is rarely a good place to look for #relationshipgoals.
Most of the show features dramatic conversations, absolutely cringe moments, hostility and passive aggressive comments galore, and red flags at every single turn. Not exactly a good look for unconditional love.
However, with the most recent season finally coming to a close, one couple have stood out as a healthy, loving pair. Brett and Tiffany have had minimal drama, deep conversations with open communication, and so much love and respect for one another than it makes the entire Internet weepy.
I was nervous about getting invested in any of the couples. Because dating shows can be disappointing. Seasons 2 and 3 of LIB in particular. But I’m so happy for Brett and Tiffany. They modeled maturity, respect, decency, and grace this entire season. #LoveIsBlind #LoveIsBlind4 pic.twitter.com/bsfbHyAPDO
— Lisa Bee (@leebee4life) April 15, 2023
Of course, that doesn’t mean they’re a perfect couple. They each have their own issues to work through and there will surely be plenty of battles to fight together. But compared to the rest of the show’s couples, it’s been a nice breath of fresh air to witness healthy humans fall into a healthy relationship together.
Love is Blind set out to prove that love is more than a physical connection, it’s an emotional one, too. But love is more than a feeling, and it is more than the butterflies in your stomach. Love is a lifelong commitment. Love is facing obstacles together, leaning on Christ together and learning to lean on one another when things seem unbearable. Marriage is often like climbing a mountain—challenging, often an uphill battle, with beautiful scenery as we climb.
That’s a lesson every Love is Blind couple will have to learn, regardless of their current relationships status. But it’s something that every non-TV couple also has to learn, too.
Here are five things healthy married couples remember—at every stage.
They don’t let society pull them down.
You will encounter many people who tell you that your marriage will fail. You may have close friends who are not very supportive. You will hear comments that make you second guess your commitment and you may ask yourself if your marriage will last. Stay active in church, read your Bible together, pray together and come together as one. Be adventurous, make memories, grow together as a couple and try new things together.
They don’t ever talk about divorce, even as a joke.
Once it’s out, it’s etched in your heart and mind forever. Even if you make a “joke” about it, the seed has been planted and it’s a difficult one to uproot. Divorce is not an option for us—but working on our marriage is.
They remember that marriage is not 50/50.
You cannot go into marriage with the mindset that you each must give 50 percent. Instead, give 100 percent to your spouse and beautiful things will follow. Focus on what you are doing rather than looking for your spouse’s shortcomings.
They know that you will change a lot.
Whether you met your partner in your teen years or as a fully grown adult, you will see them grow in more ways than one the longer you are together. Sometimes its in subtle ways, other times its in such big changes that end up impacting your own life. No matter what happens on their journey, you have to give them space to grow and change. Give your spouse a chance to discover their passion and encourage them along the way. It’s an amazing thing to experience!
They start every day with fresh eyes.
Don’t let the pain or frustration from yesterday linger in your marriage. Trust God and face every day with a newfound sense of hope, a fresh pair of eyes and a desire to love your spouse unconditionally—through the ups and the downs. Get to know them more every day.
Instead of being marriage naysayers, let’s get out there and encourage young couples and all couples who are planning to say “I do!” Marriage is fun and only seems to get better with each passing day—if you let it.
