Former megachurch pastor Perry Noble is speaking out about his struggle with alcohol. The former pastor of NewSpring Church was removed from his position this summer, and took to Facebook to explained that he had been abusing alcohol, and would be seeking treatment. This week, he gave his followers an update, explaining that he had identified some of the roots of his struggle with a counselor, “These are the areas where I have clearly identified making extremely unwise decisions.”
I chose isolation over community. I was a hypocrite—I preached, ‘you can’t do life alone’ and then went out and lived the opposite …
Isolation is where self pity dominated my thinking, thus justifying my abuse of alcohol.
Isolation is where self-doubt dominated my emotions, causing me to believe I just could not carry the weight anymore, and alcohol was necessary for me to make it through another day.
Isolation is where self-hatred dominated my mentality – I hated myself, literally HATED myself for doing what I was doing, but believed the lie that this was just the way things were and there was no way it could ever get better.
I chose isolation—all the while knowing that a strong community of people who really loved me would rally around me and walk with me through the valley I was in.
Noble also said that he chose to control relationships, isolate himself from his family and remain silent during his struggles. He said he and his wife “love each other and are really trying to make our marriage work.” He also encouraged other couples facing challenges to get the help they need:
Let me beg married couples…please don’t cease fighting for your marriage by investing your time and attention into other things. Maybe it’s not alcohol, maybe it’s a hobby, or porn, or friendships…or even your kids. Take it from me – the temporary feeling of relief is not worth the long term pain of the consequences.
You can read his entire post here.
Jesse Carey is a mainstay on the weekly RELEVANT Podcast and member of RELEVANT's executive board. He lives in Virginia Beach with his wife and two kids.