From Reflection to Reality

1 Corinthians 13, which opens with, “Love is patient, love is kind,” is a well-known passage of Scripture for those who have grown up in church. I’ve heard this passage used a Christian weddings umpteen times. If it’s an aspiring picture of love that is totally selfless, looking to others best interests and totally free from fear.

It’s appropriate that these verses show up at weddings, as marriage is the closest picture of the love relationship Jesus wants to have with the church. Marriage is the fullest and most intimate expression of real love. As Christ pursues us, so the groom pursues his bride, eventually humbling himself to lower to one knee and offer a costly gift -the ring- which essentially buys her, claims her as his. As she accepts his gift, she says yes to a life with him, takes his name, and pursues him back, and they enter into a shared life of service and submission to one another. They live out the description of love found in first Corinthian‘s. 

But that’s not all. After the vows are said in the bouquet and garter are tossed, the new married couple goes off to finally know each other as deeply as anyone can be known in a physical sense. The act of making love, which solidifies the couples oneness, represents a knowing that is deep and beautiful and mysterious. The deepest desires of the human souls to be known. To be understood. To be explored and found desirable. This mutual knowing is the ultimate closeness. But as the years of marriage pass, both partners realize that though they know each other deeply, though they know more about each other than anyone else, there is still more to learn, more to probe. As known as they are, they are not fully known. In verse 12 of 1 Corinthians, Paul says, “ now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face-to-face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I’m fully known.” 

Marriage, as well as other forms of intimate earthly love, are just a poor reflection of the love and the full knowing – we look forward to. As we can’t fully know our spouse or other loved ones, we can’t fully know Jesus, but we are told that he knows us fully, and someday will know him. Free from the insecurities, wounds, and flawed ideas that hold us back now, free from any of these selfishness that seems so impossible to escape here in this world, will be able to fully give and receive love. All the best examples you’ve ever experienced of intimate love and knowing all put together are but a poor reflection, like a dusty, cracked mirror in an attic. We’ve got the real thing coming.

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Jesus, I am excited to be face-to-face with you. It’s hard to even fathom. Thank you for giving us pictures on earth of your love for us. Thank you that you fully know me, and that someday I will fully know you.

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RELEVANT’s “Deeper Walk” daily devotionals are presented by the LUMO Project, a visual translation of the four Gospels developed to engage people with scripture in a new way. You can watch the videos—which redefine the standard of visual biblical media—on YouTube, and find out more about LUMO’s mission at their website.

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