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Debra is a Licensed Professional Counselor, relationship expert, speaker and author of several books, including True Love Dates. Debra is also the creator of the popular relationship advice blog TrueLoveDates.com, reaching millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter.

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What Do I Do About My Unbelieving Spouse?

[Editor’s note: This summer, we’ll be bringing in different experts to answer your questions for…

Why Christian Women Need to Stop Waiting on Men

I recently did a dating Q&A online, and out of the hundreds of questions submitted,…

Why Christians Should Kiss the Courtship Debate Goodbye

I thought we were way past the “Courtship vs. Dating” debates. I thought that was old…

4 Lies Culture Tells Us About Sex

Last year, we broke down the 4 biggest lies the Church told us about sex.…

The Lie About Falling in Love

“To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This” That’s the title of an online article…

5 Game Changers for Your Love Life in 2015

“Those who don’t know history are destined to repeat it” —Edmund Burke Let that quote…

The Not-So-Easy Steps to Finding Relationship Closure

She had been dating this guy for a few months when things started getting weird.…

8 Types of Women You Should Never Date

[Editor’s Note: This article is part of a two-part series. Check out yesterday’s article on…

10 Guys You Should Never Date

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You Teach Others How to Treat You

She walked into my office looking a little nervous. This was her first counseling appointment, and…

A Guide to Being a Single Millennial

I used to believe that your twenties was the best time in life to snag…

Should Girls Ask Guys Out?

I grew up with the learned belief that a woman should never initiate a relationship…

5 Christianese Relationship Cliches to Stop Using

Is it just me or does there tend to be a certain lingo in the…

4 Myths Christians Need to Stop Believing About Depression

“True believers don’t suffer from depression.” His false statement rang in my ear like a…

4 Lies Single People Need to Stop Believing

Sometimes, seemingly innocent thought processes can hold some majorly dangerous power. They enter into our…

Top 10 Relationship Killers

“We’re getting a divorce,” she explained, with a look of disappointment on her face. Her…

Signs You Aren’t Ready to Date

For far too long, the overall Christian sub-culture has been down on dating. It’s been…

Real Life Truths Every Grad Should Know

The day of graduation is so exciting. All the hard work, hours of cramming, and…

How to Keep Your Marriage Strong

Google “marriage jokes” and these are some of the things you’ll find: Marriage is not…

The Non-Physical Sides of Sex

“I knew it was just a one time thing” she said. “One thing just led to…

3 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Single

I dusted off one of my old journals the other day. I’ll be honest, it…

Behind Our Culture’s Marriage Obsession

There’s been a lot of talk about marriage lately—from reality TV shows like The Bachelor…

Why You Should Have More Than One Significant Other

The term “significant other” has come to be a blanket term for romantic relationships. It…

Relationship Mistakes Not To Make in 2014

Like any year, 2013 was filled with both ups and downs. For many, those highs…

10 Secrets You Should Know About Marriage

There are few people who really know what they’re getting into when it comes to…

Why Christians Need to Talk More About Sex

Let’s talk about sex. If you come from a Christian community or family, that’s probably…

What Men Want in a Godly Woman

Editor’s Note: This is the second in a two part series of what people are…

What Women Want in a Godly Man

Editor’s Note: This is the first in a two part series of what people are…

Are You Ready For Love?

As a professional counselor, I have worked with countless couples whose problems and strife stemmed…

How To Never Get Led On Again

Once upon a time, I got led on. Yep, you heard me. The relationship counselor—a…

10 Signs Your Relationship Is In Trouble

Your girlfriend always runs late. Your boyfriend always waits for you to make the plans.…

3 Ways the Church Can Encourage Singles

I recently wrote an article for RELEVANT called “What Not to Say to Singles.” Immediately,…

What Not to Say to Singles

We’ve all experienced it: that awkward moment when well-meaning people try to comfort singles with…

New Rules for New Media

“He totally sub-tweeted my Tweet on Twitter. How passive-aggressive is that? I’m definitely going to…

The Perks of Solitude

There was a time in my life when I felt utterly alone. I was in…

Wedding Planning: How Much is Too Much?

The epidemic of extravagant weddings is seeping into our culture in an unmistakable way. Turn…

Why Are Christians So Bad at Dating?

Once upon a time, I freaked out about dating. As hard as it is now…

How to Get Past Your Past

What’s the one thing you can’t seem to “get over,” that mistake or wound that was dealt long ago that keeps tripping you up even now? Here’s a professional counselor’s take on how to overcome it.

6 Relationship Resolutions for 2013

The iconic midnight kiss in Times Square may be a sweet tradition, but for some of us it’s a bittersweet reminder that—at least for now—we’re alone. Whatever 2013 brings your way, here are a few resolutions to start out right when it comes to relationships.

The Problem With Casual Dating

A sure sign of any healthy relationship is the fact that it continually grows. Of course, many would say that growing slowly together is a good thing, and keeping things casual at first can help. But can casual dating ever get in the way of real growth?