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Debra is a Licensed Professional Counselor, relationship expert, speaker and author of several books, including True Love Dates. Debra is also the creator of the popular relationship advice blog TrueLoveDates.com, reaching millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter.

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Have We Made an Idol Out of Sexual Purity?

I’ll never forget the look on her face as she shared the story of her…

Marriage Isn’t About Your Happiness

Did you ever think someone could show you love through a bologna sandwich? I didn’t…

The Problem With Casual Dating

A sure sign of any healthy relationship is the fact that it continually grows. Of course, many would say that growing slowly together is a good thing, and keeping things casual at first can help. But can casual dating ever get in the way of real growth?

Are You Sure You’re Ready For Love?

As a professional counselor, I have worked with countless couples whose problems and strife stemmed…

Why Olympian Athletes Break Down, and Why You Could Be Next

Did Simone Biles have a mental break down? The world stands stunned, as “gymnastics super-star…

What Not to Say to Singles

Each year, the day after Valentines Day is officially known as Singles Awareness Day (yes,…

5 Things to Do While You Wait on God

I may not know you, but I know this one thing: You’re waiting on something.…

Making the Most of Any Relationship Status

Whatever your relationship status, relationships can be consuming. Those who lack one fixate on getting…

Why There’s No Such Thing As a Soul Mate

I got an email from a young man who was feeling frustrated with relationships. He…

Your Spouse Isn’t Your ‘Significant Other’

Find out how you can get on the same page with your spouse. Take this…

Here’s How to Find True Love

“I do.” These are the words many single young adults dream of saying. I remember…

5 Habits That Sabotage Joy

I’m not sure if it was the scowl on her face or the glare in…

4 Reasons Friends With Benefits Is a Really Bad Idea

We live in a culture with a high tolerance for ambiguity. From our fear of…

Should Christians Get Married to Have Sex?

I knew a girl in college who had recently gotten married. She was pretty young…

10 Unexpected Benefits of Real Community

Here’s a story with which you may be familiar. Boy meets girl. They fall in…

Waiting for Marriage Doesn’t Mean You’ll Have a Great Sex Life

A couple I knew had been dating for two years and remained abstinent until their…

13 Signs Your Relationship Is Moving Way Too Fast

We live in a culture of instant gratification and immediate pleasure. We want things fast…

Are You ‘Waiting on God’ or Just Making Excuses?

When it comes to the discussion of relationships, many Christians say, “Wait on the Lord.”…

How Your ‘Fantasies’ Can Ruin Real Relationships

I recently overheard two women discussing their fantasy boyfriends over coffee. They were chatting about…

5 Things All Healthy Couples Do When They Date

There was a time in my life where I wondered if I was crazy. I…

Culture’s Big Lie About Marriage

I recently read an article about marriage that contained some concerning statistics about how this…

Here’s the Problem With ‘On-Again, Off-Again’ Dating

“How long have you been dating?” “Two years … well, that’s if you don’t count…

The 5 Types of People You Should Marry

[Editor’s Note: We previously published an article on “The 5 People You Should Never Marry.”…

Three Things to Know When Searching for ‘The One’

What if I told you I could help you find “the One”? What if I…

5 Things No One Tells You Before You Get Married

Now that my husband and I have been together for over a decade, we look…

‘Casual Dating’ Can’t Stay That Way

As a professional counselor, I cringe whenever I hear the phrase “casual dating”—especially when those…

Why Good People Get in Bad Relationships

Have you ever noticed that sometimes the sweetest people are drawn to the “bad guys”?…

5 Signs You Shouldn’t Marry That Person

“Love conquers all.” But does it … really? It’s a sweet phrase that we like…

What Does the Bible Actually Say About Dating?

Type the word “dating” into your Bible search tool and what comes up? Nothing. When…

How Do I Deal With My Partner’s Sexual Baggage?

I have been in a relationship with a guy for two years who I would…

Marry Someone Who Loves God More Than They Love You

I have a secret I’d like to share with you: My husband loves someone else…

Why Is Dating a Non-Christian Such a Big Deal?

I’ve been single for years, but I recently met a guy I hit it off…

When It’s Hard to Be Thankful

We’re told that Thanksgiving is a time to be thankful. It’s a time to reflect,…

5 Things Married Couples Should Do Every Day

“You’ve got to make time to invest in your marriage.” If you’re married, it’s likely…

5 Things We Can Learn from the Ashley Madison Scandal

Since last week, hundreds of people have been exposed through the hacking of Ashley Madison—a…

A Guide to Texting the Opposite Sex

There is nothing more convenient than texting. With the swipe of a finger, I can…

The 5 People You Should Never Marry

Have you ever been in a situation where all the facts told you it’s not…

Porn Is Not Just a Man’s Problem

Recently, there has been a new wave of what some have called “mommy porn” across…

Why Are So Many Christians Afraid of Dating?

Once upon a time, I freaked out about dating. I repressed my desire for dating…

What We Get Wrong about Women Submitting to Their Husbands

The other day, I tuned into a show that’s turning some heads. It’s called Submissive…