How to Spot a Fake Apology

Sincere apologies are an essential part of healthy relationships. Here are a few ways apologies break down. Read More

Forgiveness Isn’t Supposed to be Easy

Learning to work through pain and forgive, even if we can't forget. Read More

Want to live a healthier life? Than you may want to start trying to move past your mistakes. Researchers at Brandeis University have published new findings in the journal Brain, Behavior and Immunity that found that people who demonstrate “self-compassion,” and can move on from mistakes, had measurably lower levels of an inflammation compound in their bodies that is linked to stress. In the study, people who had high levels of self-compassion, had less of the stress agent interleukin-6—which is linked to a number of health problems including cancer, heart disease and Alzheimer’s—for days. This suggests that those who can’t forgive themselves carry harmful stress around for long periods of time. So, do yourself a favor, and give yourself a break ... Discuss

The Rwandan Genocide: 20 Years Later

Two decades after the start of the Rwandan genocide, what we can learn from a nation's healing Read More

The parents of Claire Davis, the Colorado high school student killed in a recent school shooting, have a message for people following the story: Forgive the shooter. Police say on Dec. 13, a student named Karl Pierson drove to Arapahoe County High School armed with a shotgun, with the intention of confronting a teacher he had a falling out with. Instead, in a random act of violence, he shot classmate Claire Davis before turning the gun on himself. During a memorial service for his daughter this week, Michael Davis said that he and his wife forgive the shooter:

My wife and I forgive Karl Pierson for what he did. We would ask all of you here and all of you watching to forgive Karl Pierson. He didn't know what he was doing … The fact is that Karl was so blinded by his emotions he didn't know what he was doing … Unchecked anger and rage can lead to hatred, and unchecked hatred can lead to tragedy, blindness and a loss of humanity. The last thing Desiree [Claire’s mother] and I would want is to perpetuate this anger and rage and hatred in connection with Claire. Claire would also not want this.

Claire died eight days after being shot by Pierson. Before her death, her family launched an online prayer campaign on Twitter, and later thanked the thousands who had supported them during the difficult time ... Discuss

Why is Regret So Powerful?

Longing for a redo can immobilize you, but it can also provide insight for change. Read More