20 Things People Over 20 Should Stop Doing

A few things to leave behind in the transition to adulthood

You've made it through your teens and most (or maybe all) of your schooling. You've probably had at least one job or internship. You've (hopefully) learned to act mature and professional.

But your twenties are a time for even more growth, for becoming independent and taking responsibility for your actions and how you influence others.

To that end, here are 20 things people over 20 should stop doing. And believe me, I’ve been guilty of most of them.

1. Spending money you don’t have

Credit cards may seem like an easy way to pay for things you really want, but in the long run they could really hurt you if not properly used. Stick to cash, debit or checks. This may seem old-school, but they will definitely help you manage your money.

2. Wasting time on mindless entertainment instead of looking for a job

Video games (or Netflix or Facebook or whatever your choice of entertainment) can be extremely fun, but those games can sure take up a lot of valuable time that could be spent on more important areas of life. There is nothing wrong with playing them, as long as you balance the time needed for school, work and other important aspects of life.

3. Using the term “YOLO”

Simple. Please stop using it.

4. Only going to church to find a relationship

Not only will you hurt yourself in the long run, but you are also selfishly taking time away from a man or woman who is seeking after God’s wisdom and guidance. You can definitely find a great relationship at church, but don’t make that your only reason for attending.

You can definitely find a great relationship at church, but don’t make that your only reason for attending.

5. Citing “Google” on a college paper or work presentation

It’s not a valid citation, and it could get you in some trouble.

6. Thinking you know it all

Nobody wants to spend time around a know-it-all. Walk in a posture of learning, and embrace every opportunity to gain new knowledge and wisdom.

7. Dating with no vision

You’re confusing your heart, and you’re hurting the hearts of others.

8. Demanding respect before you’ve earned it

Don’t get prideful. Learn to scrub the floors before you ask to manage the building. Don’t let self entitlement get the best of you.

9. Waiting until the last minute to do things

Stop procrastinating! Teach yourself diligence in all circumstances. Not only will this help you in your day-to-day life, but it will always help you set yourself up for the future.

10. Getting in arguments over social media

Nobody wants to see your drama on their news feed. Keep it to yourself and the people involved. Handle each situation in a mature and honorable manner.

11. Blaming others for your own mistakes

Drop your pride. Accept your failures. Learn from your mistakes. You will learn a lot from the process.

12. Relying on your mother and father to constantly bail you out of trouble

Learn to take care of yourself instead of always relying on your mother and father. They aren’t always going to be around to help you.

13. Calling off work for no reason

You aren’t doing anyone a favor by calling off. Learn to be responsible, and value that job someone else in the world wishes they had.

14. Ignoring wisdom from people who are older than you

You don’t know everything. Take time to learn from people who having been living longer than you.

15. Thinking minimum wage is worse than no job at all

Don’t believe the lie that money is everything. Any job is a good start. Give your full attention to any job, no matter the pay.

16. Pretending like you didn’t know any better

Purposeful ignorance will only get you so far. Own up to your mistakes and take each failure as an opportunity to learn.

17. Using the excuse, “I’m too young”

You’re never too young. There is always room for you to succeed when hope is on your side. Have faith in yourself and the gifts God has given you.

If you don’t stand for something, you’ll eventually fall for anything.

18. Not planning for the future

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Be diligent and plan for the future. Give yourself some goals, dreams and future aspirations. Give yourself something to wake up for in the morning.

19. Giving up before you start. Stop making excuses!

Excuses won’t get you anywhere! Better to try and fail than to regret never trying at all. At least you will learn something.

20. Being passive

If you don’t stand for something, you’ll eventually fall for anything.

There are plenty more things you should stop doing and other things you should start doing. Remember that no one is perfect, and these points are all things I myself have once struggled with or witnessed. But take some time to think through habits you need to give up and habits you need to cultivate. It will help guide your transition into true adulthood with fewer regrets and pitfalls.

This article was originally posted at Jarridwilson.com.

Top Comments

James Aaron Fretz

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James Aaron Fretz commented…

Things people over 20 shouldn't do.

1. Make lists like this.
2. Repeat 1.

Odwa Tafeni

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Odwa Tafeni commented…

The article has a tone that I appreciate, and the points mentioned sure are pertinent. The style used to expound these points is not all deep but simple, because the truth needs to just be told in a simple manner and for me points: 1,4,9,11,13 and 20 stood out.

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Ray Sinbran

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Ray Sinbran commented…

21. Don't be like Nicholas Buckminster Mattson, Aaron Adamson, and James Aaron Fretz: making everything about you and taking it personally is not a good quality at any age.

Tom J Ady

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Tom J Ady commented…

Damn people are harsh. Find something better to do with your time than troll on blog posts. This thing has been shared over 20k times so obviously someone finds it useful. Just because u don't like the content/quality doesnt mean bitching is warranted.

Nelson Greenfield

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Nelson Greenfield commented…

Please stop calling me "dude" . . .

Nathaniel Bellin

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Nathaniel Bellin commented…

Lets break these down one by one...

#1 is detrimental to a healthy financial life. Credit cards in your name are essential to building and maintaining a credit score, which you will need later for things like cars, houses, and cheaper insurance.

#2, I'm sorry, but you spend eight hours a day, five days a week, for a year trying to find a fucking job and failing before you lecture me on how I cope. Come over here, let me kick you in the stomach every two hours, and then tell me how long you can keep that up, thanks.

#6 and 16, as soon as I saw this my first thought was this:
"Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy,
But not express'd in fancy; rich, not gaudy...
Neither a borrower nor a lender be."

Don't think you're smart and seek to learn, but don't act like you don't know things! These two are evidence to me that the author is fishing for things to complain about, and that's all these are; whiny complaints. Either we're know-it-alls or we play dumb. Can't do both.

#8 and #10 are pitfalls of avoiding #20. Again, he's accusing us of being simultaneously too brash and too meek. And I HIGHLY, HIGHLY disagree with anyone who thinks or espouses the idea that you somehow have to 'earn' respect (this is especially hilarious coming from a Christian website). Thank God Jesus didn't feel that tax collectors and prostitutes had to earn his respect. Respect is something given freely, and can only be lost. Anything else is you simply being rude jerk.

#9 is a valid method of doing things. As long as you perform a given task in time, there is no reason to fault someone for not getting it done early. Some people prefer the pressure of a deadline. I highly recommend 'The Art of Procrastination' for a less accusatory look at people who operate this way.

Odwa Tafeni

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Odwa Tafeni commented…

The article has a tone that I appreciate, and the points mentioned sure are pertinent. The style used to expound these points is not all deep but simple, because the truth needs to just be told in a simple manner and for me points: 1,4,9,11,13 and 20 stood out.

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