Does God Choose for Us?

How to decipher God's will—without the fear of messing up.

I was at a bridal brunch recently where the hostess praised the bride for her patience in finding a husband and because she "allowed God to choose for her."

It’s a recurring theme in Christian circles, a sweet sentiment, but is it true? If God chooses for us, then what role does obedience play in our faith? When we “let God choose,” are we canceling out our independent ability to choose grace?

But this goes far beyond a default Christian catchphrase. It taps into the ongoing philosophical debate of free will versus determinism. Basically, this poses the question: Do you have the ability to make independent decisions to determine your future, or are you merely a pawn in the game of destiny that has already been decided by your birth, genetics and socioeconomic status? Can you decide your future, or has your future already been decided for you by lots of independent variables all strung together?

If you are, in fact, walking down the one path God has laid out and no other path exists, you can easily derail His entire plan by making one small mistake.

For Christians, it’s of course also a spiritual issue. Can we decide our own future, or has a rigid path already been laid for us to which we must adhere? Is there room for free will, creativity and choice, or are we robots who pursue a pre-determined path? Do we get to decide, or have these decisions already been made for us?

It’s much easier to become deterministic—to believe that everything is out of our control and the end has already been decided. It’s easier to believe that God is choosing for us and that anything that happens to us, happens for a reason. This is how we comfort ourselves when things turn south.

The only problem with thinking this way is that it creates intense pressure. If you are, in fact, walking down the one path God has laid out and no other path exists, you can easily derail God's entire plan by making one small mistake. God's provision suddenly depends on your ability to be good.

Doesn't that make God a dictator? Doesn't that mean He has taken away free will? Walking with God suddenly becomes a multiple-choice test, and one wrong answer will wound irreparable damage. There is no room for grace in this story. Future blessings depend on your ability to be good and do good. When you start believing your walk with God is like this—choosing the right answer and not screwing up—you become incredibly self-righteous.

The classic counter-argument to this mindset goes like this: In order for love to exist, free will must exist as well. The two must live side by side. If you have love without free will, it isn't really love at all but domination.

God has already given you everything you need to find His plan, decipher His will and follow Him. 

In Deuteronomy 30, the Israelite children were wandering in the desert, and during this chapter, Moses stops to provide a timely dichotomy. If I may paraphrase, Moses is saying to them: "You need to be obedient because God is going to bless that. And finding God's path, dwelling in obedience is not that hard." Moses continues in verses 12-14, "It is not up in heaven, so that you have to ask, 'Who will ascend into heaven to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?' Nor is it beyond the sea, so that you have to ask, 'Who will cross the sea to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?' No, the word is very near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart so you may obey it."

I think this is one of the most empowering verses in the Bible. Verse 19 states: "I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live." God gives us guidance on what to choose, but He will never force our hand—because without choice, love is impossible.

Think of it like this. In The Break Up, Jennifer Aniston’s character tells Vince Vaughn’s character in one telling scene that she wants him to want to do the dishes. It's like God is saying, "I want you to want to follow My will and listen to My guidance and pursue holiness, but I will never force you. I will never choose for you."

I've heard it preached before that once you become a Christian, you surrender all free will. Suddenly, you exist in a kingdom and you have no rights. But perhaps it is our very ability to choose that makes our faith all the more real.

If you choose something for your child, you can never take pride in his decision because he never owned it himself. This walk with God is not a multiple-choice test where the answers are already filled in. But perhaps it is an open-ended question, like Moses laying before the Israelites two different kinds of life. The end has not been penned.

So many times, trying to follow God seems like an insurmountable task and we find ourselves asking, "How can we be obedient? Where is this path? Is it up in heaven? Is it hidden out of reach? And who will go get it for us?" No, instead, it is very near you. It is in your mouth and in your heart. God has already given you everything you need to find His plan, decipher His will and follow Him. Now it is our job to choose life.

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Iliana Gerasimenko

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Iliana Gerasimenko commented…

This is a very interesting debate, as some already mention. I dare to disagree with some parts of this article simply because it misses the fullness and completeness of the the question.

Does God choose for us? Yes, if we ask Him we shall receive. He provides a variety of choices for us that would be pleasing in His sight.

I believe that God equips us to make better choices as we grow and become more mature in our faith. I also agree where the author mentions that this could sometimes translate into self righteousness for some people. However, if we go to God in humility and ask Him to guide us as we seek His leading on any situation, including the choosing a mate, He is gracious and is more than able to lead us by the hand to the person that He finds suitable for us.

There is nothing impossible for God and He wants to be included in every part of our lives and in every decision. Our view of God tends to determine our relationship with Him...if e see Him as only someone who set things in motion and now we get to choose everything for ourselves, then that is what we will do and experience the 'trial-and-error' in our lives. But on the flip side, although we have ideas and feelings about what we should do and what our hearts desires, if we surrender that to the Lord and ask Him to give us the Wisdom, Understanding and Discernment about the issue, He will give that to us. The thing is, we do not like to wait for His response...but the Scripture tells to wait on the Lord and that there will be seasons where we feel like the Lord is silent. Here is the thing we get to choose: are we going to take it into our own hands and end up with the 'impostor', or are we going to allow God to keep us in that dwelling place as He prepares us for what we truly desire and need?

Grant Hooper

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Grant Hooper commented…

My question would be whether or not this writer is a Christian who believes the word of God is inerrant and sufficient, or if this is someone who calls herself a Christian, but sort-of comes up with her own rules? It's a fair question on the basis of her words. Right as she gets passed the introduction and readies to "teach us" the solution to the problems presented, it is worrisome that not only is her answer not based in scripture, but it is contradictory to scripture.

"It’s easier to believe that God is choosing for us and that anything that happens to us, happens for a reason. This is how we comfort ourselves when things turn south."

First off, this is judgmental. We all have a brain... and also a flesh... and we all look around and think that we have a higher logic. Some of it truly does make sense. But where does it end? If we decide to be "pragmatic," than Christianity itself is nullified. It doesn't "make sense" to deny ourselves. Many Biblical imperatives simply do not make sense to our fallen minds, that are corrupted by sin and finite. we are given do not seem to make sense to our fallen, limited minds.

The author misses the point, by appealing to her own logic, rather than the word of God. She says that it's easier to believe God is choosing for us. What she really seems to be saying is that it is easier to believe that God is sovereign, that we use this notion as a crutch, and that it's simply not true. Wow. Hard to argue against someone who can read our minds, eh? Hardly a crutch... God's sovereignty is a foundational truth that keeps our faith from being swept away with the winds. Why? Because we know God's character and he is good. Therefore, the BIBLICAL FACT, that God has either caused it or allowed it... whatever it is, is not a feeble notion, but an essential ingrediant to endurance. It would be hard to pick just one Bible verse as proof, since half of the New Testament attests to this fact, but obviously 1st and 2nd peter come to mind. I would also encourage you all to read God's response to Job. God is in control. And we do have choices. God doesn't sin for us. Adam and Eve chose sin, and God decided to use it for good, the same way he did with Joseph's brothers. For the believer, abiding in Christ, if we go choose to sin, God promises that he not only forgives us, but will cleanse us. He turns our bad decisions into a growing pain, rather than allowing us to perish. He refines us so that we come out of the fire as Gold, and so that we indeed, do escape the fire... He is the great recycler, as I have heard it to be said. He disciplines those he loves. Those he does not, are illegitimate children. Sometimes, he will prevent us from acting and intervene. Sometimes he won't... but when he doesn't, you better believe he is already two steps ahead of us, and that OUR plan, has already become part of HIS plan, in eternities past, when he plotted not only what he would do with us, but what he would do with our decisions--bad and good. There is no action divorced from his cosmic rein... and that makes him completely in control. And, yes, that's a good thing.

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VANZELL

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VANZELL commented…

"Blessed is the man whom you choose, and cause to approach unto you." Psalm 65:4

Iliana Gerasimenko

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Iliana Gerasimenko commented…

This is a very interesting debate, as some already mention. I dare to disagree with some parts of this article simply because it misses the fullness and completeness of the the question.

Does God choose for us? Yes, if we ask Him we shall receive. He provides a variety of choices for us that would be pleasing in His sight.

I believe that God equips us to make better choices as we grow and become more mature in our faith. I also agree where the author mentions that this could sometimes translate into self righteousness for some people. However, if we go to God in humility and ask Him to guide us as we seek His leading on any situation, including the choosing a mate, He is gracious and is more than able to lead us by the hand to the person that He finds suitable for us.

There is nothing impossible for God and He wants to be included in every part of our lives and in every decision. Our view of God tends to determine our relationship with Him...if e see Him as only someone who set things in motion and now we get to choose everything for ourselves, then that is what we will do and experience the 'trial-and-error' in our lives. But on the flip side, although we have ideas and feelings about what we should do and what our hearts desires, if we surrender that to the Lord and ask Him to give us the Wisdom, Understanding and Discernment about the issue, He will give that to us. The thing is, we do not like to wait for His response...but the Scripture tells to wait on the Lord and that there will be seasons where we feel like the Lord is silent. Here is the thing we get to choose: are we going to take it into our own hands and end up with the 'impostor', or are we going to allow God to keep us in that dwelling place as He prepares us for what we truly desire and need?

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