Mark Driscoll Says Just Grow Up

Talking with the controversial pastor about doctrine, growing up and if he regrets some of his past statements.

Controversy has never been far behind Mark Driscoll, the founding pastor of Mars Hill Church in Seattle. Most notably, his outspoken support of a complementarian view has sparked debates anew around gender roles within the Church. And his infamous comments on Jesus’ masculinity—he has written that the mainstream church has transformed Jesus into a “Richard Simmons, hippie, queer Christ,” a “neutered and limp-wristed popular Sky Fairy of pop culture that ... would never talk about sin or send anyone to hell”—certainly pitted many against him. However, the reformed pastor has only risen in popularity and his loyal following has grown to include a large number of churches through his Acts 29 network, an average of 84,000 weekly podcast listeners and more than 61,000 Twitter followers. We talked to Driscoll recently about his new focus on doctrine, whether he regrets some of his more controversial statements and why he believes immature men are the Church’s most urgent crisis.

You are focusing on doctrine quite a bit right now in your writings and teachings. Doctrine seems like a word we should all agree on the meaning of, but that isn’t always the case. What’s your definition?

Doctrine is found, actually, in the Bible. Paul says, for example, at one point to watch your life and doctrine closely. So he connects how you behave and what you believe—that you need to pay careful attention to both because what you believe determines how you behave. So for me, doctrine are those core, essential, necessary truths of Scripture from Genesis to Revelation that help us understand who God is, and how the world was made, and our role in the world, and what went wrong, and how Jesus is our Savior and what God’s big plan is in the end. So it’s the big ideas that anchor the world, and God and our place in relation to God and the world.

What would you say is the difference between doctrine and dogma?

When I hear the word “dogma,” I think of the taking of secondary issues and making them primary issues. I always use the language that there are “open-handed issues” and “closed-handed issues.” Open-handed issues are those issues which Bible-believing Christians can debate over, disagree over, even discuss over, but not divide over. The closed-handed issues are those issues we really have to remain committed to, to remain Christian. So for me, in the doctrine book [Doctrine: What Christians Should Believe], I had to really work hard along with my co-author, Gerry Breshears, on those issues that should be in the closed hand, and also talk about the various issues that need to remain in the open hand. I think dogma is putting everything in the closed hand—being absolutely dogmatic and contentious about things that, quite frankly, aren’t as clear in Scripture as other things. So there are issues in the Bible, like eschatology issues surrounding Jesus’ return, speaking in tongues, some things like that where you can love Jesus, and believe the Bible, and disagree on and still be a faithful Christian. There are other issues, like the Trinity or the resurrection of Jesus, you have to be very clear on to remain Christian.

You’ve talked a lot about twentysomethings today living in a sort of extended adolescence. Why do you think that is?

I think, in particular, it’s young men. Perhaps to some degree it is young women as well, but we’re finding more women are getting better grades, more women are graduating high school, more women are graduating college, more women are buying homes, more women are doing things that are more adult and responsible. We’ve created this. It’s a sociological category. It used to be you go from “boy” to “man,” and now you go from “boy” to “guy” to “man.” There is this whole new creation of a “guy.”

It’s just extended adolescence, where 20s, 30s, sometimes even in his 40s, he doesn’t really want to get married, doesn’t really want to have kids, doesn’t really want to pursue a career. He has a lot of hobbies, got a lot of buddies, watches a lot of porn, gambles, has a lot of fun, maybe plays in some band or is in a guild of World of Warcraft, or something ridiculous like that. And they’ve even got little [mottos] like, “It’s all good” and, “Bros before hos.” It’s just this whole adolescent, juvenile culture. Kind of the Adam Sandler-esque view of life, and there is this whole genre of comedy movies built around these kind of inept, irresponsible, immature guys, and I think part of the problem is, as well, that the Church in large part has accommodated that.

Those guys tend not to go to church. If those guys do show up at church, it’s usually just to find a couple of gals to break the commandments with. And the Church doesn’t really know what to do with them, so the least likely person in America to go to church is a guy in his 20s who is single. Without knowing what to do with those guys, they commit crimes, they get women pregnant, they’re a drain on social services, they don’t raise their kids, they don’t contribute to church, they’re not getting ready to lead the next generation. I’d say it’s nothing short of a crisis, it’s a real problem.

What do you think has created this “guy” phenomenon?

Part of it is the unintended consequences of divorce. Forty percent of kids go to bed at night without a father. Not to be disparaging toward single moms, but if you’re a single mom and you’re working 60 hours a week, and you’ve got a boy, and he’s home all by himself with no parents and no dad, he’s just going to be hanging out with his buddies, feeding himself pizza rolls.

The number one consumer of online pornography is 12- to 17-year-old boys. What that means is he’s home eating junk food, drinking Monster energy drinks, downloading porn, masturbating and screwing around with his friends. That really doesn’t prepare you for responsible adulthood. That’s a really sad picture, especially if you’re a single gal hoping to get married someday. You’re like: “Seriously, that’s the candidate pool? You’ve got to be kidding me.” That’s why 41 percent of births right now are to unmarried women. A lot of women have decided: “I’m never going to find a guy who is actually dependable and responsible to have a life with. So I’ll just get a career and have a baby and just intentionally be a single mother because there are no guys worth spending life with.”

Several years ago, you were regularly in the press for your controversial statements on gender roles, but now it seems like you’re steering away from those conversations. Was that intentional?

I don’t know, I’m always getting in trouble for something. I’m just really focused on, at this point, men and women. It’s really interesting because if you took all the women in my church who were sexually abused, raped, molested, assaulted in some way, I’d still have a megachurch. I’d have a couple thousand victims. So a lot of my time is spent with women who are abuse victims, it’s a huge part of what we do, and guys who are totally responsible and part of the problem. That’s where my focus has gone in part because of the demand that’s in our church and because of the people who I’m dealing with.

Do you regret any of those statements about gender roles and Jesus’ masculinity?

Oh my gosh. I have been preaching and teaching now for 13, 14 years. In Malcolm Gladwell’s book, he says it takes 10,000 hours of something to become an expert. Preaching and teaching, I’ve gotten in about 10,000 hours. I’ve published I don’t even know how many books, blogs—it’s a crazy amount of content. If I could hit control-alt-delete and go back and do like they used to in Men in Black and just hit a button to make certain people forget certain things, that would be awesome.

My hope, my prayer, my goal is to do better, by God’s grace, to learn, to grow, to be sanctified and mature—to be less shock-jock and more Jesus-centered. I’m turning 40 this fall, so I can’t get away with, “Oh, he’s young.” I’ve got five kids, I’m not young anymore, I’m a tired old man. But I’m hoping God gives me enough years, maybe 30, 40 more years of service, that when it’s all said and done, I will have had enough time to correct some mistakes I’ve made and learn how to more clearly articulate some things I believe. So I’m trying to learn as I go.

A longer version of this article originally appeared in Neue magazine.


Zaire Krieger


Zaire Krieger commented…

You can say whatever you want to say about Driscoll, and even though I think he is being a little hard on the men ..
He's kinda right about the 'guys'..

Andrew Benson


Andrew Benson commented…

""You’re like: “Seriously, that’s the candidate pool? You’ve got to be kidding me.” That’s why 41 percent of births right now are to unmarried women. A lot of women have decided: “I’m never going to find a guy who is actually dependable and responsible to have a life with. So I’ll just get a career and have a baby and just intentionally be a single mother because there are no guys worth spending life with.”""

So, the illegitimate childbirth problem isn't because women sleep around and have kids out of wedlock--it's that they can't find any guys THEY want to marry. Huh, okay. Doesn't that mean women are rampantly immoral, according to this? They can't find someone to marry who fits, so they basically just have sex, like animals, so they can conceive. If Pastor Driscoll is right on that, doesn't it mean women have the morality of dogs, who just mate with whoever, so they can have kids?

Andrew Hall


Andrew Hall commented…

I'm not sure I've ever witnessed such a hateful, bigoted, misogynist, misinformed, homophobic trainwreck of self-serving psychosis as Mark Driscoll. A man who get's off over telling people how shit they are, and that they're all going to hell. Some people have porn, Driscoll has that.

He is truly an embarrassment to any being who calls them-self, 'human'. The sooner this man suffers a massive scandal, is unseated from Mars Hill, and is pushed to the wayside, the better. Everything he says makes my blood boil.

For the record, Mark. I'm one of those 12-17 year olds you discussed. My mother was a single mum due to a by-en-large useless dad. She worked hard to keep us afloat, the casualty of that was my fatherless, and often-time, motherless upbringing. I did all the things you said those boys did (save for Monster energy, it wasn't invented when I was that age). Yet, I'm to be married to my beautiful fiancee next year; I absolutely cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with her. I like to think I have a modicum of responsibility, despite my less-than-optimal upbringing (as described by you).

Edward Mar


Edward Mar commented…

First of all the comment pool is just as entertaining as Youtube and Yahoo comments. Thanks for making my afternoon.

Actually, I do resonate with much of Driscoll's comments on manhood. As unpopular as I may appear (compared to the recent lot of you), I have to agree a lot of the problems with the male is the lack of honest leadership. Generally, I feel like we're becoming a detached or pretty much noncommittal society. With a world where information are brought instantaneously and portably (yeah I made up a word), time is even more of the essence and we just really want things now. We'd rather not wait, instant gratification. As a male in college about to turn 21 with a few days, I'm wondering the same for my peers and myself. I keep think will us guys ever get to the point of knowing our lives need to be in order and not just based on chasing pleasantries and shadows. I don't know. We can point a hot poker to anything whether is media, broken families, and other sources, but there is a clear message in my head that with God all things are redeemable. With that in mind even with my concern of American manhood, the gospel of Jesus gives me hope in a shadowy time. It starts with me making the right and responsible decisions. It starts with me rebuking and speaking truth to brothers and sharing insight to nonbelievers. It starts with me instructing the next generation.

I do recognize however that Driscoll is dropping blanket statements throughout the article. Risky game that Driscoll is playing, but that's something I'd expect from someone like him.

Nonetheless, save your curt comments and actually do something right for once.

Sarah Sweeney


Sarah Sweeney commented…

Whether you agree or disagree, please show a little more Jesus-Centered comments. You can disagree without attacking the man and making comments like "well, that's just what I'd expect from HIM."

Part of the problem with a lot of our culture is that people see us as judgmental, hypocritical, cannibals. Not in the literal sense, but instead of saying, "Hey Mark, proud of you for trying to be more like Jesus," We say things like "what makes you think you're a pastor you hypocritical jerk." How is that like Jesus? Jesus would have been right there, telling us, "He who is without sin let him cast the first stone."

Let's look at our own lives before we point out everything that is wrong in someone else's.

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